Perhaps an underminer will give you an incorrect date, thus, making you miss a deadline or not give you all the relevant information so that, unbeknownst to you, you don’t do your best work. Someone who is sabotaging you may withhold necessary information from you to thwart your work. They withhold necessary information from you For example, they may act like they’ve worked at your company longer than you even if they haven’t, saying something like, “We’ve done it that way for the last five years,” when you’ve been there six years and your underminer has been there three years.Īnother example of this unhealthy competition is someone shooting down everything you suggest or do, often in front of others, or correcting you in front of colleagues, the legal team, and/or your boss. Those who undermine engage in an unhealthy form of competition. They’re competitive in an unproductive wayĬompetition can be healthy, so not everyone you compete with is undercutting you. For example, if a sales representative you work with provides the wrong version of an agreement to a client, she may blame you, telling you that she gave the client the version you provided to her even if that’s not true. On the flip side, someone who undermines may also blame you for her shortcomings. For example, if you draft a template agreement with your underminer, he is likely to tell your colleagues that he drafted an agreement for their use without ever mentioning your contributions.
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They take credit or place blameĪn underminer is likely to take credit for your work or take full credit for something you worked on together. This allows the underminer to more effectively make you look bad to your colleagues and causes you to underperform in your role. The underminer’s goal is to make you disgruntled because you’ll be less likely to form connections with others and less effective in your role. Someone who is actively undermining you is likely to put negative thoughts in your head or tell you negative stories to get you ginned up and make you unhappy with your boss, your colleagues, your work, or the workplace.įor example, he might say something like, “Why do you and I do all of the work for legal?” or “Senior management really needs to provide us with more resources like automated workflows!” Merriam-Webster defines “undermine” as “to subvert or weaken insidiously or secretly.” If you keep the “insidiously or secretly” piece of this definition in mind, you will be in a better position to effectively combat subversion. Underminers think they look better if they make others look worse. Underminers criticize but offer no solutions because their goal is to make people look bad, not improve anything.
Someone who is trying to undermine you will likely badmouth others to you and you to others.
14 signs of undermining coworkers They gossip
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So, how do you tell if your colleague is trying to undermine you, and what can you do about it? This month’s column will help answer those questions, starting with how to spot people who undermine you. That is the evil genius of one who undermines: The situation can be tricky to identify and tough to deal with. Because of the subversive nature of undermining, it is harder to spot and more difficult to report.īeing sabotaged in this way may make you question if you’re just being too sensitive or if you’re imagining things. It is not readily apparent like bullying or harassment. Undermining, on the other hand, is subtle. Personally, I prefer outright hostility to undermining because at least it’s overt and, thus, easier to address. Most of us have been in a situation where we suspect that we are being undermined by a coworker.
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